Help Ladies! Is My Girlfriend Really Ok With This?
I love my girlfriend dearly; I want to try to make her world perfect. That’s why I probably will never ask the following, but simply to be able to know her better (and I suppose on the slight chance that I do ask) I’d like to know if you could "decode" this for me.
A while ago, we were talking and she said that she would get breast implants if I asked her to. At first, I assumed that she was just saying this for my benefit and had no intention to ever actually do so. But later, I asked her if she’d really do it. Once again, she said yes. It came up several more times, and I had asked a slew of "What If" questions to see if I could stump her.
"What if I asked for a size that was really big?" I’d ask.
"Well wouldn’t they be the size you’d want?" She says with a cute snicker.
"But what about how you’d feel about them?"
"I’d feel good about them, because it would be exactly what you’d want."
Being as close to her as I am, this doesn’t sound too far-fetched. But I thought when I asked, "What if I asked for a size you didn’t like?" and she said "I’d feel good about them, because I’d be exactly what you’d want" again, it sounded like a bit of a stretch.
I asked her if she’d feel bad if I asked, and she said no. I asked her how would she feel and she said that she’d just think, "oh, well here’s something I can improve upon!" I asked if she’d be afraid of surgery, and all the risks that go along with it.. She smiled and said no, because, as I knew, she had gone through a different (non-cosmetic) surgery before.
Hey, what can I say. I’m a typical male. Her tone of voice, adamant statements and her occasional nagging about her physique makes me want to take what she said as fact. However, fortunately, I love her too much to do so without a second opinion.
So what do you think? Is she serious or would she be crushed? I don’t really plan on asking her to get implants, but to know her better, and perhaps even apply this to other situations (new clothes, nai lpolish color, etc) I’d like to have a woman’s insight on the matter.
Thanks 
Sam
All the answers so far are brilliant! Thanks! I want to make sure we’re all on the same page, so I thought I should add a few details and make a few clarifications.
1) She brought it up the first time. After that, either I did, or the conversation would just roll that way.
2) Though I don’t know the ins and outs of breast augmentation, I’ve got a feeling that it’s more "intense" then the surgery she had to go through before.
3) This one may sound weird, but it’s true. If I were to say "but it’s your body, so it’s up to you." She would say "Yeah, but I’m all yours, right?" And smile and snicker in the cute way she so often does.
Thanks again! Your feedback so far has been great!
Odd.
Who knows, though.
Maybe she has some inner longing for bigger boobs, and just wants an outside reason to get them. She might not be comfortable doing something like that for herself. That’s the only reason I can think of for a woman to say that.
Or, she could be so infatuated with you that she’d do anything like that that you wanted… If she brought it up in the first place though, I feel like she might just kind of want them herself.
I know women are hard to decode sometimes and say things that mean something else or whatever. In this situation she really might not have a preference, she may really just want to do what you think is attractive, and may really just want to please you. But, she needs to take her personal preferences into mind also because there is a chance she wouldnt like it after it was already done. Also, I think you should be married and committed to a person in order to "ask" them to have a cosmetic surgery, especially something that is kind of to your benefit.
Hey Sam,
Just to give you a girl’s POV on this, I’m sure that your girlfriend truly does mean it when she says that she would get implants for you. But the problem is, she thinks that way now, when you’re not actually asking her. She doesn’t know the consequences of actually going through with this little "alteration", and I’m not talking about health hazards and whatnot. If you were to seriously ask her to consider getting a breast augmentation, she would initially respond with a smile on her face, but, deep down, unconsciously, she would feel slightly hurt that you don’t accept her the way she naturally is. Even though you didn’t explicitly state that, and she was the one proposing the surgery, what she really wants to hear is you telling her that she has the perfect body and you would never ask her to change for you, and that you love her just the way she is. She may be happy in the beginning, but when she realizes the truth, I think it would be quite a painful experience for her. If you really love her for who she is, then you shouldn’t care about her breast size, right? So tell her what she wants to hear, and if she insists, then say that if SHE really wants to go through with it because of personal self-esteem issues or whatever, she can do it. But not because of you.
She wants them and wants to know if you want her to have them.